Today’s post is something a little different and personal. I love sharing my thoughts on body confidence as I feel like it’s something a lot of us struggle with, myself included.
Insecurites – We all have them…
I’ll start by telling you a little about my insecurities, online I tend to come across as a confident gal (well I think so). The truth is I’m not, I constantly compare myself to others and think ‘if I looked like her then I’d be happy…’ when I wouldn’t because everyone has something that they wish they could change, if you don’t then tell me your secrets! My confidence has grown massively since I started blogging, but I’m still that awkward girl who says all the wrong things.
Recently I went to a blogging event and was nervous because I didn’t know anyone, I stupidly approached a group of girls and blurted out ‘are you from here then?’ they asked if I was lost and wanted directions, nope just me being insecure and not having a clue what to say…
Body hang-ups, weight loss, weight gain & bad hair
Now for the bit you probably clicked on this link hoping to read. When I started my current job I spent a lot of my time munching on food, that paired with my first ever all-inclusive holiday (which was amaaaaaazing) wasn’t good for my waistline. I was the biggest I’d ever been and lacked confidence even though Andy still told me I was beautiful. I decided enough was enough and started BBG by Kayla Itsines (a workout programme which you can read about here). This combined with healthy eating helped me lose the nearly 2 stone I put on and left me feeling much healthier and happier.
I was back in a size 8 and was the smallest I’d been in a long time, but still wasnt happy. My hair colour was too dark, so I paid a professional to fix it but ended up with it going horribly wrong and a pixie cut. You’d think that I’d be happy with my image, still the answer remained no. I’ve got short legs, a long body, muscular arms, no boobs and a stomach that always bloats no matter what I eat…
The bit that’s hard for me is if I say ‘why am I always bloated’ I get a response of ‘you’re tiny so what’s the problem?’. There’s so much talk about not fat shaming, but it seems ok to tell people they should be happy because they are thin… What if that person doesn’t feel thin or they just want to be different?
At high school I had frizzy hair which eventually turned curly, so many people used to be horrible to me because of it and now people love curly hair! For those who are in the small boob club who feel like their lives would be better if they had a little more something you can wear underwear as outerwear and get away with it (I’ve written about this here). If you’re thinking you need to lose weight to be pretty or to be liked then you’re so wrong. When I lost weight I didn’t gain more friends, I didn’t suddenly think I’m good-looking (and I still don’t). I’m more confident because I’m healthier. One thing that often comes with weight loss or weight gain is stretch marks you can be any size or age and still have stretch marks but these are something that shouldn’t stop you wearing what you want, I have so many and have written my thoughts on the subject here.
If you’re trying to change your image for the sole reason of happiness and you don’t think that until you reach that ideal you can be happy then please stop for a moment and think about something; life is a gift, we dont know how long we have and so we ought to be grateful, we need to stop living in the past and we need to appreciate now. Don’t let something you can’t change instantly ruin right now, enjoy whats going on and make those small changes to a happier you. If you’re comfortable within your skin dont let social media pressure you into being a certain size or shape or having to wear your hair in a certain way. The world would be a very boring place if we all looked and dressed the same.
I guess what I’m trying to say amongst the ramble is being thin doesn’t make you happy and neither does any other part of your image, it helps but it’s not the be all and end all. I still worry about what to wear incase I have a really bloated day, I still am not quite happy with my hair and would like to be more toned but at the end of the day I don’t let these hang ups rule my life and neither should you, embrace your differences!
Thank you for reading,
Love Saff x