Do you ever feel like you’re under so much pressure to succeed? Not just at work, or on your blog, but in general? Do you ever stop and think that maybe you put too much pressure on yourself to do well? Today I’m talking about failure, keep reading to find out more.
I’ve always been a perfectionist and when I say perfectionist I mean it, if things aren’t going 100% to plan then I’m not a happy gal… I tend to beat myself up about it. Negative feedback or criticism causes me obsess, in an unhealthy way. Whether I’ve forgotten to do something or not been as good at a task as I had planned it really knocks me off-balance. Writing my blog this year has introduced me to so many challenges and new people who I’d never have met if I hadn’t started and although I’d love to have a larger following it doesn’t mean I’ve failed. Starting from scratch and achieving what I have so far is good (well I think so anyway)!
We put so much pressure on ourselves to achieve and focus so heavily on being the best that we can be that when we have an off day it sets us back. We should see failure as an opportunity to pick ourselves up and learn from our mistakes. I hate failing or being wrong but I’ve learnt some really valuable lessons from failure and wanted to share these with you today.
Lessons that can be learnt from failure:
- There isn’t always one answer to every equation, as people we need to learn to adapt this can help us learn so much more.
- Numbers don’t mean everything, I.e. I shared a blog post yesterday and had 6 views all day which was the least views I’ve ever had and it made me feel really down. However numbers don’t mean anything, maybe it’s my followers way of telling me they prefer alternative posts or that they have been really busy.
- If something doesn’t go to plan it doesn’t mean you’ve failed, there may be an aspect of what you did that worked and now you’ve been given an oppurtunity to learn something new.
- Not succeeding can be positive, it’s always important to learn what our weaknesses are as well as our strengths, it’s all about perspective!
- Failure can boost motivation, that’s right! Think about it, if you know you aren’t good at something then it gives you a goal to aim for.
- You can meet new people and experience new things by not getting the results you’d like first time; I would never have met my boyfriend if previous jobs hadn’t worked out, as we met at our current workplace.
My thoughts continued…
Failure’s a strange thing, without it we wouldn’t know what we need to improve on and life would be pretty boring if we were good at everything. It often points us down paths which we wouldn’t take if things had gone to plan, such as careers, meeting new people, learning new skills and so on…
We focus waaaaaaay too heavily on what we think social media tells us from how many likes we receive on our photos to how many people view our posts and we let this influence us, often in a negative way so we feel we aren’t doing well. Sometimes let social media affect our self-worth and we let it lead us to think that it is measured by websites and applications. This is something so silly that doesn’t define us as individuals. If you use social media, which a lot of us do for work, social and general purposes then that’s fine but don’t let it define if you’re achieving or not.
If you only take one thing away from reading this post I want that to be: failure is normal, we are all human and it is a natural form of progression (should you act on it) so don’t beat yourself up about silly mistakes, take note and move forward.
Love Saff x